From the very own experience I say, because there is nothing to hide now. After my homosexuality has been published, friends now trolls me in various ways. Sometimes they make fun of me, keep on mocking me and sometimes they talk behind me. Though when I was home, I have never discussed about my sexual orientation, I felt like a stranger. At lease in this society. A straight person will never understand how terrible time I have gone through.
In Bangladesh, homosexuality is almost forbidden. Neither society nor the state accepts it. Even a law was also introduced in the country. Section 377 of the Bangladesh Penal Code provides punishment to the sexual activities of homosexual persons. It’s not only brutal, it is also shameful for the country who claim itself as civilized.
From an article by author and activist Rainer Ebert, we can learn a lot about this topic. I will use some parts of his writing in this article for your better understanding.
Firstly, let’s understand what is sexual desire?
Sexual desire refers to sexual intercourse between male and female or same sex person’s emotion, passion and a relation on the basis of sexual attraction. At one end of this sexual desire, some people just feel attracted to the opposite sex, and on the other side, some feel attracted to same sex. But sexual orientation can be divided into three categories: Heterosexuality (attraction to the opposite sex), homosexuality (attraction towards same sex) and bisexuality (attraction towards both sex).
How can a person understand whether he/she is homosexual or bisexual?
You will get it to know when you need to know. It may take some time to know, and there is nothing to rush for. The main attraction works as a basis for the sexual desires of adults and it is usually felt from the beginning of the childhood to the beginning of adolescence. It can be said here that in the case of gay or bisexuals, they have very different experiences about their sexual desires. Some people get to know whether he/she is homosexual or bisexual even before getting into any relationship. Some people get into relation before understanding of his/her sexual orientation. Again, some people are sexually involved without actually knowing their sexual orientation. One thing to say here is that due to reforms and discrimination, it is difficult for many to raise or express their sexual orientation. They don’t know whether they are homosexual or bisexual. As a result, understanding their actual identity is delayed and it’s time consuming.
Why everyone has different sexual desire?
Scientists have never agreed to say that what makes a person heterosexual, homosexual, and bisexual or the reason of those sexual instincts. Many thinks that nature and environment both play a very important role in this regard. As people cannot pick up their skin colour, so also their role in determining sexual orientation is limited.
These three parts above are important. This understanding on these homosexuality or bisexuality depends on a lot of things. I am bisexual, so my experience is very different. My cogitation, then an unknown dread, fear was all about the whole thing. As a result, I’ve suffered many things and learned a lot from it too.
Because of these experiences, I am working for the rights of the people of our community today. I have raised my voice to talk about their health, about the future. I am also talking about the main problem of religion. Because religion actually leads people to various superstition. And the situation of Islam in our country is terrible.
It is surprising the amount of thug and wrong doing happens in the name of the hypocrite prophet. So, as a whole, I would like to say that we need to learn more about homosexuality and we need to tear off the religion and talk about our own rights.